The screenplay in movies reflects our lives. We have the hero who encounters conflict. There are challenges, highs and lows, villains, allies. There is a resolution to the event not necessarily happily after ever, but a definite end and then the credits roll. Unfortunately, dramas in real life dont have a clean ending. Sometimes after a dramatic event, we don’t get to say the last word, the justice we deserve or the apology we expect.
We seek closure, but it doesn’t always happen the way we want it. Therefore, you have to release the burden of the encounter from yourself. A dramatic confrontation leaves an imprint in our being. We tend to go over the battle multiple times in our minds. We go over what was said or done and look at the incident through our mental magnifying glass. We often question what was said and find ourselves justifying our position.
We feel a sense of restlessness from a perceived injustice.
There are words you might be waiting to hear that you may never hear. And you can let this eat at you, or move on. Now moving on doesn’t mean you have to be friends again or pretend that nothing happened. Moving on means, you are not waiting for something that may never happen. You are not holding on to a specific event. Moving on means putting an end to it in whatever way that gives you peace. If that means forgiving someone who isn’t sorry, then it is forgiveness you accept within yourself through compassion and understanding of the situation from other’s point of view. If it means cutting the person out of your life to give you closure, do so with indifference. For indifference is the key to un-attachment of the situation. If you cut the person off and still feel hatred or bitterness, the lingering emotions may come to haunt you at a later date.
Anything you hold to in the past only blocks your future. The energy you spend waiting for closure from an event leaves that event imprinted in your energy.
You will be leaking energy from your subconscious to that past event. Imagine it is like opening an app on your phone. It will run in the background and consume the battery and memory unless you close it. By closing that app, you can save your energy and give yourself room to download a new one.
So permit yourself to close past troublesome events without needing anything from anyone. Take away the most powerful thing you have to give — your energy. Keep your energy, your thoughts, your attention and give it to someone or something worthy in your future.
